The Kids are Great
Having children is often an anxious or difficult time for non-monogamous people. Alongside all the concerns everyone has, there are a whole lot more that come with non-monogamy.
First off, there’s the big questions:
- As your child grows up, how do you equip them with tools to explain their family to possibly uncomprehending or even hostile adults? And, even worse, deal with potential bullies?
- How do you introduce your other partners to the children? How do you make sure they are not scarred for life because of this weird thing their parents are doing?
- Will you have the energy and time to maintain multiple intimate relationships if there’s a baby or young children around?
And then, there’s the little things:
- How do you address having multiple parents in a school, nursery or playgroup setting?
- Will you need to explain your relationship style to teachers, parents, doctors and other professionals? Will they treat your child the same?
No wonder it’s a bit daunting. Nightmare visions of confused, abandoned children and broken relationships are common.
But there are actually some great benefits to raising kids in an open relationship setting. Kids who grow up seeing multiple respectful, consensual relationships and perceiving a variety of possible family structures often learn to be open-minded, considerate and respectful early on.
Not that raising children is ever conflict-free, as any parent can tell you!
Non-Monogamous Parenting April 21, 2014
Whether you are a parent who is considering poly or open relationships, or a person considering parenting or getting involved with people who have children, you probably have some level of insecurity about how polyamory and parenting fit together. Are you thinking… Will the kids be ok? Will they get bullied at school? Will social services take them away? Won’t having so many parents around confuse them? How do people feel when their children aren’t biologically theirs? It can be easier than you think. Meet Juliette’s family. They are your standard V triad with a little girl who goes to the petting zoo and paints pictures of her family at school. Curious about how it works for them and how it could work for you? See more…
There are some simple techniques that help you manage the transition into parenthood, and combine raising children with multiple fulfilling adult relationships. If you’re worried about conflict, communication issues, the impact of your relationship style on your children as they grow, or the practical daily realities of bringing up kids in unconventional relationship structures, get in touch.
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