Having and Keeping Awesome Relationships
It’s not unusual to feel daunted by the process of managing open relationships.
It’s natural to have concerns, particularly if all this is new to you:
How do I make it work?
How will opening up affect my relationship with my partner? Will we be okay?
What about jealousy? How do we deal with that?
How about insecurity and other intense emotions?
How do I figure out and desires and where to set limits for new relationships?
What about juggling different partners? How will I have time for everything?
How to keep your relationship healthy when a third comes in August 23, 2014 You are exploring open relationships, but have one big fear that may be stopping you from relaxing, enjoying it and jumping right in: You are afraid that a third person will ruin your existing relationship. It can either be that you grow more distant as the connection with the new person deepens or that one of you suddenly decides you want out. First of all, that’s a very understandable fear, mostly because that can and does happen. Luckily, some of us have explored the territory and know ways to avoid a new connection upsetting and even ending your relationship.
It may seem overwhelming, but actually, making open relationships work is mostly about emotional awareness and common sense. There are some simple methods you can use either by yourself or with your partner to ensure you stay on track and considerate of everybody’s feelings – and have a great time on the way.
As a culture, we’ve been set up to expect and fear jealousy and other intense emotions, and use them to enforce a monolithic monogamous relationship model. Once you’ve thought outside that box, it’s possible to manage your jealousy and other intense emotions, and use them to enhance your current relationships. Many people find introducing new lovers actually improves their existing relationships.
Managing open relationships isn’t an impossible dream. It’s about knowing what you want and having support systems in place to help you get there.
I spoke to Janet Hardy, co-author of non-monogamy bible The Ethical Slut, about her lifetime’s experience of making non-monogamous relationships work. Watch the interview here.
You’ve watched the videos, but want to see how it can work for you. You want the support to get you there. Join me for one of my complimentary strategy sessions in which we will:
#1: Discover what wonderful relationships mean to you
#2: Find out what is you from getting there
#3: Give you clarity and motivation to course ahead
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